This is part 2 of a post that I published earlier this week.
I attended this #BetterMe #session with Coach Pia at Sambokojin quite a while back, but I needed some time to process all the learning that took place.
I was able to publish the key points of Coach Pia’s book Born to be a Hero earlier this week, but because there was so much information jam packed into that session, I decided to break up the last 8 (I like that number) points and provide them here instead.
While the previous post might have given you many things you realize you need to work on, this next post will give you concrete tips to making things happen for yourself, bringing out the Hero within, and finding your balance and happiness.
If you are just picking up here consider these tips as the starting points you need to reach the goals you set for yourself. Coach Pia shared these tips with us after we had covered many of the ideas found in her book. I know she is currently working on a second book that will assist me in “RAISING (my) Little Heroes.” I’ll be on the look out for that one-and when it’s published, I will surely share that one with you too 🙂
1. Always remind yourself that there is no doubt about it: YOU WERE BORN TO BE A HERO.
Take away: Think positive and powerful. Know it to be true. Believe in yourself. ALWAYS.
2. Practice your ability to articulate your needs without any guilt.
Take away: Exhale and speak your needs. Let go of the guilt…all of it. (no matter what your mother or your religion says)
3. Simplify: Have a willingness to get down to basics.
Take away: It’s that SIMPLE. Figure out what is important, what is NOT, and do away with the superfluous.
4. Speak to people you know you will gain wisdom from.
Take away: Choose your friends and associates wisely. Hang out with people smarter, more self aware, and really good at what they do. It will rub off. Promise.
5.Always define your greatness from within. Never define your greatness from the without. Your self worth is NOT defined by how people view you.
Take away: Ever heard of that saying? “What people think of you is none of your business?” YUP. Exactly.
6. Remember: Genuine greatness does not put you at the center of attention.
Take away: When you do find greatness, it will be because you have done it for all the right reasons. (Remember No. 5 on the Hero Meter? Do I have the ability to work without seeking recognition?)
7. Perception of myself and my perception of other people (Do the I am a 10 exercise.)
Truth: I had to ask for some help on this one. Remember how I was saying that I was taking notes frantically because there was a plethora of information to take in? For some reason I didn’t have anything more on this topic. I asked my fellow SoMoms about this one, and basically it boils down to The Golden Rule. If you quantify your self-worth, you are a 10. But everyone’s self worth is a 10. So even if you disagree with others, have different points of view, or different values, you should still treat that person as you would want to be treated, because we are all 10’s.
8. Your parents’ pain is your pain too. Choose the proper teaching moment. It’s a belief, a value, a principle.
Take away: It doesn’t matter how much therapy you have had, how many life coaching sessions you have had, or how committed you are to your growth as an individual, you will still have baggage (hopefully you are aware of it by that point) from your parents. Hopefully, all the therapy and the continued quest for self awareness will diminish the amount of negative beliefs, values and principles that you pass on to your own children.
Children learn by example. If they see you continually trying to better yourself as a person, then that is what they will pick up on.